Monday, July 25, 2011

What to do with an unhealthy crush

So say you have this huge crush on this guy who is totally beyond awesome and totally adores you. You think he's super cute. He's really funny. He likes the same things you do. Oh, and the best of all- he's single. Sounds like a great catch right? I mean, can it get any better? You think he could be the one.

But. And this is a big but. Say he's not a Christian, say he hates kids, say he's unsociable, say he won't be able to provide, say he has bad breath, say you simply aren't ready yet...whatever it is- you know deep down in your heart that it's not going to work out between you two. So what can you do? You really like him after all, right?

1. Well first you should definitely pray about it. NO matter is too small for God to handle. Ask the Lord to give you peace about everything and pray for wisdom.

2. You should also pray for this kid and his future wife as well. This really puts things into perspective. Praying for this guy to draw closer to God and to guard his heart will give you peace and help you see the bigger picture. By praying for his future wife, you are admitting that you might not be the one and are able to see things more clearly.

3. You shouldn't text, call, or hang out with him on a regular basis. I think this pretty much explains itself.

4. You shouldn't stalk him on facebook(or anywhere else). In fact, it might even be a wise idea to take him off your news feed. Sometimes, us girls can get a little bit obsessive with stalking that special someone and seeing what he's up to. Please don't do this- you'll just think about him more.

5. Take all of the pictures of him with you out of your room. Yes, even that special one. You might even find it fun to tear them up into a lot of pieces and trash them. It's kind of significant.

6. You shouldn't listen to certain songs or watch certain movies just because they remind you of him. That's unhealthy.

7. Tell your friends that you are getting over him so they won't bring him up all the time and you wont' have to talk about him. I'm not saying you shouldn't talk about him occasionally to your closest friend or your mom. I'm just saying that your friends shouldn't see you as a "couple waiting to happen".

8. Hang out with your friends more often. This will help you keep your focus straight on those friends.

9. Write letters to God or journal what is going on in your heart. This is one of the best ways to let your feelings out.

10. Spend your life living for Jesus. Volunteer. Have a daily quiet time. Get to know your Savior. Reach out to hurting people. Share the love with everyone. Always have a smile on your face.

Girls, you can come up with your own list like this...depending on your situation. I'm not trying to make y'all have a set of "rules" or anything like that. However, when you have an unhealthy crush, you honestly should obey God and get over it. I hope these tips helped y'all!

Proverbs 3:5
Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.

Your sister in Christ,

1 comment:

Hannah Grace said...

I don't do the "boyfriend thing", but this is very good advice for those who do! :) Keep up the good work, ladies. <3

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